Mary Houge explains how to make the shift towards the life you want. The key to doing this is to surround yourself with strong people and get their support.
Now you want to make the shift. The light bulb’s going off, and you want to do it. But you still have that fear, and you’re like, “How am I going to do this?”
Surround Yourself With Strong People
Well, you know the antage: you’ve got to surround yourself with strong people that have done it. All right? Back from when you’re a child: parents are always telling you, “Watch the company you keep!” Okay. So that’s really important. Many spiritual people will tell you that, no matter what religion you are. Wherever you go, it’s always, “Watch the company that you keep.” So, if you want to do that, don’t be around people that are going to … “Oh, do you really want to do that? Can you do that? Are you sure?”
You don’t want that. It’s not going to help the situation out. You want to be around people like us. You know we’re professionals and we’re going to help you make those columns, make sure that we find out what it is that you want to do, so we can help support you in that direction. And you want to do that in your life. You want to solicit your family and friends. Have a conversation. Ask them.
Get Their Help & Support
Ask them for their help. Say, “I need to make this change for myself.” Be strong about it. “I need it. I want it. This is what I’m going to do. And in order to do this for myself, I love you, and I respect you, and I need your support. I need you to help me through this, and this is what that looks like. When I’m wavering and I’m getting scared and I’ve got my fear shoes on, push me forward. Don’t let me go down that road. Just encourage me forward—that everything is going to be okay. Give me positive advice, even if you don’t want to be in this hallway, because it’s not your choice, and it’s not your life. Maybe you don’t even see…”
Those people might not even see your way. Ask them. Go, “Even though you don’t probably, maybe,even agree with this for me, this is what I need to do. I’m asking you for your support, regardless. The advice, or things that you want to say—please filter it. Please give me the advice that goes along with my plan, to help me do this, and to help me make this shift.”
Those people might not even see your way. Ask them. Go, “Even though you don’t probably, maybe,even agree with this for me, this is what I need to do. I’m asking you for your support, regardless. The advice, or things that you want to say—please filter it. Please give me the advice that goes along with my plan, to help me do this, and to help me make this shift.”We’re going to have a good wellness team, whether it be us, whether we’re just part of it—which is great, because we’re not everything. You know, you’re going to have a lot of other team members. We just want to be part of your team. We’re a team ourselves here, so we’ve already got a team to give you a start of a team. And then we have to keep your church, your pastor, whatever your walk is spiritually—your parents, your children, your husband, your wife, your friends, whoever that is. We’re going to help you have these conversations, give you these ideas to have these conversations with them, because that is one of the hardest things about change: we want to change but the people around us don’t want to let us change, because they know “this” person, and everybody’s got their little role and this scenario, and everybody’s going to get uncomfortable when things start to shift. You have to know that. You have to be ok with it, because you need to do that for yourself. Everybody else just needs to get comfortable with it. Remember, they’re in the hallway too. They’re in the hallway—a different one: the hallway of your change. They’re not comfortable, but that’s okay because they’ll get over it and they’ll get comfortable, as long as you stay in your conviction.